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I AM ASKING WHY?

I am asking why? I will always ask questions when I really cannot find a satisfactory answer by myself. I have been trawling the internet for many weeks trying to find a space that was designed for INFJ type people. Not just any old space, a quality space that had substance and meaning.

I am new to trawling on the internet looking for personal contact and quite frankly, I am astounded at the trashy content of so many sites. I asked myself many times, "What was the aim of the site?" "What could it mean to the viewer and the site owner?"

The purposes of a blog spot can be very varied of course but Sarah has made her blog site a get together space. That is her purpose! I have had my own blog spot running for just one month and my purpose was and is, just the same as Sarah´s. To write interesting content and share it with other people who could maybe appreciate what I have to say.

And hopefully get some feedback from those readers and establish a communication link, whereby we could expand on the topics written of. Now I am not going to talk more of my blog of course, I am INFJ, I do not talk of what I do, only who I am! Possibly why I achieve very little!!

I have spent some good hours reading some of Sarah´s blog posts and have been very pleasantly surprised. I am enjoying reading her words. I like very much her manner of explaining her views, thoughts and feelings. Her choices of topics are so very typical of our common niggles in day to day life. Our mundane, you could say! I have felt after reading each one, that I am becoming more familiar with Sarah and her style of writing.

Sarah is a writer herself, I have become a writer too. I can feel Sarah as I really feel like Sarah does with regards to writing! I have two books down now!! Though no one knows of course! They are about me and my life and trains of thought, so no, no one I know would be interested, would they?

I can see that Sarah has been working hard at getting this site filling out with a variety of posts. She has prepared a very attractive looking site, where everything works. Click here, it opens! And it does!! Photos and questions for discussion. I see that her posts are being read by many.

I have had four hundred reads in my first month and here is my question at last? WHAT DOES A WRITER HAVE TO DO TO EXTRACT A COMMENT OUT OF A READER? Now, I am not being rude or offensive, no I am not. It is a genuine question that is baffling me.

I have seen so many paragraphs of rubbish on other sites and there are hundreds of comments. I will grant you that the comments are generally no more than three words long!!!! WHY DO PEOPLE NOT COMMENT? There is another question.

The only time that I do not comment on something that I have read, is if I really think I have just wasted my time in reading it. I will always post a comment. The site owner wants/needs feedback and I am a reader, where will the feedback come from if not the readers? So I put it to you all, WHAT MAKES YOU POST COMMENTS OR NOT ON WHAT YOU READ?

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7 Comments

artsy_lady990

Mar 30, 2023

I wonder those same things, friend.

birshol

Jan 04, 2023

I am wondering.. the amount of words you use and the kind of anger I feel from your opinions.. it does not feel like INFJ to me.. I know that there are some similiarites between ESTJ's and INFJ's and that people can be mistyped in online tests..

Gillian Metcalfe

Jan 04, 2023

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Thanking you. You are perceptive birshol. I have been with a gag over my mouth for twenty-five years. I have not had a quality conversation for two and a half decades. I am nearly exploding at not having anyone in this world to communicate with but myself. All I want is two way communication. I have been overlooked for so long that yes, birshol, there is a point when we turn but we become even more introverted and go to self-destruct. I am trying to prevent that by reaching out and trying to find someone somewhere who might consider my voice. No my friend, I really could be extroverted for some hours of the day but it would be part of my work. I could not bear all the attention! I am a phenomenal actress though!!

I am my own judge but I need evaluation as all those that I know just see me as the OUTCAST that I am, by my own choosing and so not worthy of consideration. My soul is so injured, there in the anger behind my words.

Do I say too much birshol? I have tried, I NEED HELP in every form that I can. Letters, face to face talks, pleas and I am rebuffed consistently. I just want to be given a little of someone´s time. Thank you for your time.

birshol

Jan 04, 2023

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Hmm.. a depressiv ESTJ may become similar to an INFJ.. I guess your loneliness and feeling misunderstood may lead you to this point. Have you tried some counselling or therapist? An INFJ would not describe themselves as 'phenomenal' on anything I guess.. Doing some charity work could help for your loneliness..

birshol

Jan 04, 2023

.. and maybe it's better to keep it short and simple and not reply to everything?

birshol

Jan 04, 2023

Hello!! This was interestening.. What makes me want to reply to a post? Mostly because I actually agree with the person who is writing and because I feel ressonance with them.. Like now I want to give feedback.. If I feel some ressonance - if there is something I can relate to in your stories.. of course I would like to know more about it. But I need a trigger- or an idea of what you are going to tell.. I saw your comment some days before but I have not had time to respond earlier. Good Luck and keep working!!

Gillian Metcalfe

Jan 04, 2023

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Hi birshol, so very kind of you to take a moment to comment on my question. I do so appreciate that. I feel very much like you and that I need to feel that yes, the writer has got a valid point there, yes, that is worth talking about! I need the trigger before I even start reading. Ten ways to do this and twelve ways to do that, do not pull my trigger. That is why I chose titles for my blogs which resonate with its content, they are not just a quirky pull. That is anti- SEO actually, I can see that. I will answer both your messages here in this one.

The length of the reply? I am trying to keep to my attention span when blog writing just like book writing. I work by FEELING alone. No discipline, no marked schedule or work load. That was my intention initially but I cannot stay with that, I just cannot do it!! Because my blog is a continuous feed, that is to say that post one leads to post two and post two leads to post three, so on and so forth, there is a defined central topic in each post. I am post by post, reviewing the chapters of my first book.

I had hoped to make contact with other like minded people through my writing of my first book. Lack of interest from anyone I know has seen me look to other avenues, hence the blog spot. I had just found out that this OUTCAST that is me, had a lettered classification. INFJ-T. So, as I have revealed myself and my trains of thought in this book in the way that I have, I can see that very likely, only other INFJs would be possibly interested.

I actually pose some direct questions at the end of each post which are aimed at opening discussion (via comments) with others on the topic discussed in that post. My thoughts are continuous. So because you have kindly answered my question, I will try a slight variation on my former question and ask you this. Do you ever pick up the thread of an article and feel that you would like to talk about it (exchange views) with others on a topic that you found of interest?

I am writing about all that is fundamentally wrong with our world and how to sort so many of our troubles, I find it hard to believe that with now nearly five hundred reads, no one has anything at all to say about the heavy weight issues. I know that maybe I am looking for the INFJ, could it be that I have not had one read my words yet and my words are all going over these readers heads?

Forgive me, there was another question! I have posted many comments on those blogs of Sarah´s which I have read so far. It was their title that had me read them and their resonance, have me make a comment. My blog address is on the writer´s forum comments, or check my profile and all my comments are there. Maybe you could find something to say about my blogs????!! Thank you for your reply!