You are Loved

You are loved. Regardless of what you say or don’t say. Regardless of what you have or don’t have. Regardless of what you do or don’t do. You are loved. Remember that.

I realized today that I have spent my whole life believing something else. For close to 30 years I have believed that love and worth and all of those special feelings associated with them were dependent. I have always thought that I had to be a certain way or do certain things or have certain things to be worth anything. But it’s not true.

I found my worth in making cookies and eating all of them. Not a good place to find worth, excess weight maybe, but not worth.

So I looked at things. I had the latest and greatest phone. I paid a ridiculous amount of money (for what I make) for a nice car. I spent a whole weeks pay on a new outfit for a lunch date. There is no worth there either. Just debt.

I was really good at school. So When I graduated from high school I decided to go to college. I ended up spending 10 years in college. And nearly 3 college degrees later, no worth. Just more debt.

About 3 years ago I decided to move half way across the country to follow my dream. Somehow, I made the dream work. I landed a great job that is everything that I wanted. But there was no worth there either.

So what’s left? I started running and cycling and swimming. I got really, really frustrated because I wasn’t very good at any of them. Then I realized I was looking for my worth there too.

But the truth is that even if I had everything in the world, even if I had the nicest car and the fanciest clothes and was the perfect size, there would be no worth there either.

I learned that worth is something that you have to start with. It’s not something that you earn. It is just something that you have. You are valuable the day that you are born and every day after that you become even more valuable, just for being alive. Everything else is a bonus.

You are loved. Regardless of what you say or don’t say. Regardless of what you have or don’t have. Regardless of what you do or don’t do. You are loved. Remember that.

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