The holidays are a wonderful time of year. I’m going to be honest… I may have already started listening to Christmas music. 

I love the season and the cooler weather and all of the beautiful decorations. I am equally stressed and excited about buying presents and giving them to my loved ones. I put a lot of thought into getting them something that they will really like and enjoy and it seems like it’s 50/50 whether I hit the nail on the head or they hate it completely. I try to take notes when they say they like something or need something. 

INFJs are full of contradictions. It’s a part of our everyday lives that we just accept. Sometimes we don’t really even notice until someone points them out. Let’s take a look at a few of them. 

Even though INFJs are very rare, some of them are hiding in plain sight! There are many characters that you may be familiar with that are more or less INFJ. Unfortunately not all of them are perfect. They have flaws, as we all do. Let’s take a look at a few of my favorite INFJ characters. 

Many INFJs want to make changes in their lives but feel stuck. They get stuck in planning mode and struggle with making the changes that they dream about and long for. How do you make that jump and finally start living up to that version of you that you see in your head? How do you overcome that resistance that you feel to the change? 

Fall is in the air here in Boston. Pumpkin spice season is in full effect. I’m so excited about it. I love pumpkin spice. 

I love it when the seasons change. It’s a great reminder for me that things do change. I tend to get in the mindset sometimes that nothing will ever get better or change for the good, that things will always be as they are. But then I start to notice that the green is slowly fading to wonderful shades of red and yellow and gold and I realize that change is happening. It’s the same for things in life. They will get better.

Let’s be honest, there are a lot of things that INFJs can’t stand. Because we are so aware of our surroundings and constantly analyzing what’s going on, we notice a lot. Nearly everything. 

We are also introverts who generally like things quiet. Most of us are highly sensitive too, so things like loud noises, people talking, chewing, that buzzing noise across the room, get on our nerves pretty easily. That’s just a good starting place though. 

As an INFJ I have always struggled with communication. It seems like a lot of people don’t understand what I am trying to say. Many times I struggle with trying to communicate what’s in my mind. It’s so hard to put it all into words! 

I have been feeling so depressed here lately. My mother does not know how to help me. I feel like I don’t want to be here at times because of how lonely I feel. I have went out on like 30+ dates with different men over the past year. I go out with some of the most attractive looking people… it doesn’t work. Eventually I started going out with people that I didn’t find attractive just hoping someone would accept me. I still haven’t found it. I usually do not get a second date. It leads me to think something is wrong with me. I don’t know what it is. I need help.